Thanks man. Not an easy one to put out this week. Nobody wants to talk about their fallibility but it's important to be real. We all need to know that it's ok not to be perfect.
I feel like your biggest mistake, and I say this as a parent who knows how important consistent bedtimes are, was not letting him watch the game with you and turning him into a Liverpool fan.
I mean, what if you drive him into the arms of Manchester United?
And now you look back and laugh considering Liverpool have been knocked out of the CL. From a Spurs fan that has been allowed the freedom to parent for the first 6m without the constant distraction of wanting to watch football.
Reading this was not only encouraging and motivating, but also resonated so much with my own experiences. I'm so glad I took the time to read this in a quiet moment - from the beginning till the end. Thank you for your honesty!
This is what putting in the work looks like right? I definitely understood this paragraph: "Being a dad coach heightened the sting. If this happened to someone else, I’d gently guide them to reflect on what was happening beneath the surface. I’d ask about stress levels, unspoken resentments, or the child’s emotional needs. But when it was my own meltdown, I felt overwhelmed by shame. I’d get stuck in a loop of self-recrimination: 'Come on—you do this for a living. How can you be messing it up so completely?'" There so much authenticity and grace in knowing no one has it all figured out because we can't!
Love everything about this post. Powerful story with profound insights for all parents or even people in relationships. Thank you brother
Thanks man. Not an easy one to put out this week. Nobody wants to talk about their fallibility but it's important to be real. We all need to know that it's ok not to be perfect.
Couldn’t agree more
I feel like your biggest mistake, and I say this as a parent who knows how important consistent bedtimes are, was not letting him watch the game with you and turning him into a Liverpool fan.
I mean, what if you drive him into the arms of Manchester United?
Ha ha. Believe me I've tried to protect him from the dark side.😂
Now he doesn't even like football 😢
And now you look back and laugh considering Liverpool have been knocked out of the CL. From a Spurs fan that has been allowed the freedom to parent for the first 6m without the constant distraction of wanting to watch football.
Ha ha. This was the year we ended up winning it 😉
It's been a tough season for you guys. Too many injuries.
Reading this was not only encouraging and motivating, but also resonated so much with my own experiences. I'm so glad I took the time to read this in a quiet moment - from the beginning till the end. Thank you for your honesty!
Cheers Nate, I'm glad it was helpful. Sorry I seemed to have missed your comment though. Better late than never right. 🙂
This is what putting in the work looks like right? I definitely understood this paragraph: "Being a dad coach heightened the sting. If this happened to someone else, I’d gently guide them to reflect on what was happening beneath the surface. I’d ask about stress levels, unspoken resentments, or the child’s emotional needs. But when it was my own meltdown, I felt overwhelmed by shame. I’d get stuck in a loop of self-recrimination: 'Come on—you do this for a living. How can you be messing it up so completely?'" There so much authenticity and grace in knowing no one has it all figured out because we can't!
Thanks Leyla. I really appreciate your kind words.
Honestly wish I did but authentic relationships require mismatches to allow us all to be seen warts and all.